6 Totally Unsolicited Tips for My Little Brother on Graduation Weekend

Nate Green, The Huffington Post

My little brother is graduating college this weekend, which makes him the first person in my immediate family to do that. It's a big accomplishment. So, naturally, I wrote him a list of six tips he didn't ask for and will probably ignore.

You know. To celebrate.

1. Learn how to make one amazing breakfast.

Why breakfast? Because you can eat it any time of the day.

Check it:
Breakfast -- Breakfast
Lunch -- Breakfast
Dinner -- Breakfast

In fact, breakfast for dinner is a truly amazing experience. Whenever I eat eggs and bacon at 8 p.m., I feel like I'm breaking some sort of antiquated rule and sticking it to The Man.

"Take that, society!"

But... what to cook? I suggest starting with scrambled eggs. But not the flaky, crumbly kind. I'm talking about the slightly-runny good kind.

A few tips:
Get a non-stick pan.
Use butter instead of olive oil.
Get a rubber spatula. (Not the kind you flip burgers with. Amateur.)

2. Learn how to make one amazing cocktail.
Why a cocktail? Because you can drink it any time of the day.

OK, I'm kidding. No cocktails in the morning. (Except for brunch.)

Anyway, knowing how to make a good cocktail is like having a superpower. One that makes you look cool in front of girls and livens up any party.

Plus, you'll have a valuable skill for when you're sitting at home alone trying to figure out what the hell you want to do with the evening (or your life).

Start by learning how to make a Manhattan. Why?

It's a classic cocktail, the ingredients are easy to find anywhere, and it's really, really hard to screw up.

3. Ask more questions (especially when you meet someone for the first time).

At some point you'll be in a situation where you'll have to talk to people.

Repeat after me: Small talk sucks.

So, a few rules: No talking about the weather. No asking how many brothers and sisters somebody has. No asking where they grew up.

Instead, show an actual interest in the person.

You're graduating with a degree in journalism for chrissakes. Put it to use.

Ask questions. Lots of them.

By asking questions and listening, people will begin to feel like you really understand them. They'll trust you. They'll see you as an ally.

That's important, because it gives you an opportunity to learn how to help that person and add value to their life.

And value for them means value for you. Eventually.

4. Once you find something you're interested in, go deep.

Maybe it's learning how to start a business or a blog. Maybe it's learning Spanish or yoga. Maybe it's learning something so crazy I can't even think of an example right now.

Whatever it is, if you're into it, go deep.

Learn everything you can about it. Research the history. Practice it incessantly. Find the best in the world at it and see how they do it.

It won't take over your life. Usually just a few weeks. Or months. Or years.

But by then, it'll be so second-nature it'll just bleed into other parts of your life and become a part of your identity.

That's usually a good thing.

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15 Best Leadership Books Every Young Leader Needs To Read

by Joe Vennare

Reading is an essential life skill. It’s how we record our history and share stories. Sure, there are countless books jam-packed from cover to cover with valuable facts. But there are also limitless volumes containing invaluable insights on the human experience. Generations of people have scribed their experiences and struggles, their emotions and confessions onto blank pages, thereby transforming them into rich resources. Given this truth, it’s disheartening to report that global literacy rates are in decline. Individuals young and old all around the world are reading less, less absorbedly.

According to author John Coleman, this lack of literature extends into the business world and all the way up the corporate ladder. In his experience, “business people seem to be reading less.” Which is bad news considering the fact that “broad reading habits are often a defining characteristic of our greatest leaders.” Perhaps it’s because reading has been shown to improve communication, emotional intelligence, organizational effectiveness, and to reduce stress. All of which are critical requirements for an effective leader.

Now that you’ve been sufficiently convinced of the importance of reading, especially for would-be leaders, you’re probably wondering what you should be reading. You might also be thinking that you don’t have the time. Well, the truth is that you do have the time:
“reading must become as natural as eating and breathing to you.” You don’t have to read 52 books in a year, but you do have to make time for more reading. And when you do, this list of the 15 best leadership books will inform and inspire young leaders.

Lead yourself.

Before you can lead someone else, a group, or a company, you must be able to lead yourself. That means discipline, self-actualization, sense of purpose, and humility.
  
1. Meditations by Marcus Aurelius (Gregory Hays translation)
Although Aurelius was writing for himself, the surviving text is a road map to living a better life. By removing the excess, Aurelius shows us all how to rise above distractions to maintain our principles. Rooted in Stoic philosophy, Meditations is practical advice for controlling your thoughts, emotions, and actions to remove stress from your life.

2. Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankel

This book recounts Viktor Frankel’s experience in Auschwitz, the Nazi prison camp, during the Holocaust. Through all the pain and suffering Frankel was able to maintain perspective and conclude that there “must be meaning in suffering.” He reminds us that the meaning of life is to define that meaning for ourselves through action.

3. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Life is a journey. Each one of us should be trying to follow our own personal legend (that is, what you have always wanted to accomplish). The tale of Santiago, a shepherd boy, reveals what happens when we pursue our own legend: “the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”

Define leadership.

After building your foundation from which to lead, it’s important to understand exactly what leadership is and how it’s applied. It’s also helpful to study other successful leaders and businesses.

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